Blog for 9-29-08
"8 Signs That You Are Losing It Over A Break-Up"

I don't know if it is the stress of economic issues or just the end of summer
but it seems like so many people in my practice and personal life are
going through the pain and agony of a relationship break-up.
Ugh....nothing is worse than that...not even the stomach flu.
This is what can happen when you let a
relationship problem get the best of you.


1. Leaving the radio off because every song makes
you cry

2. Loss of appetite

3. Binge eating for comfort

4. Calling, texting or emailing
your ex several times a day

5. Constantly checking your email and voice mail
to see if they called

6. Not making plans with your friends or family
 just in case the ex wants to see you.

7. Thinking non-stop about why ex REALLY left you
or what you could say to make them change their mind

8. Feeling urges to spy on them via drive-bys, Facebook, etc.

But that's not all!
 
Have your friends stopped taking your calls? 
Yes, they love you but they have heard it all!!

And, it can get worse than this!

When you do get a hold of them, it usually
turns ugly because without a clear plan of what
you are supposed to do -what happens? P-A-N-I-C...
defensiveness...arguments...and then it gets really
ugly/pathetic.

-We try to convince them we are the love of their life.

-We will apologize profusely for everything.

-Promise to change for good this time.

-Try to get them to see that it wasn't really our fault.

- Beg them to take us back!

Wow! Nothing is less attractive than needy, desperate and insane!
And when I say “attractive” keep in mind what the true origin of this word is.
“Attract”! 
The only person you will attract to you with neediness is someone really insecure.
Most people will, with every word we
utter, regardless of our intention, become more and more
defensive, angry and distant.

Please know...this is not your fault! You weren't taught
this in school.  You probably weren't taught this by
your parents...and there is no “How to Live through a
Break-up”night
school...

And it is really a shame too because what could
be more important than learning about love and relationships?  
Physics? Dodgeball? ALGEBRA?"
 
If you want to survive your break-up with dignity and your sanity in tact,
I will be starting a Break-Up support group.
If you are going through a divorce or still hurting from one,
if you have a lost love you want to get back into your life,
if you want support and steps to take to get your life back, or
if you just want to learn how to make your next relationship
the bet ever, contact me for more info.
847-361-9147